“When we feel generally secure, that is, we are comfortable with closeness and confident about depending on loved ones, we are better at seeking support - and better at giving it.”Dr. Sue Johnson

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a type of therapy that focuses on relationships and attachment bonds between people. It was developed primarily for couples by Dr. Sue Johnson in the 1980s but has since been adapted for use with families and individuals as well.

Here are some key features of EFT:

• Attachment Theory Basis: EFT is rooted in attachment theory, which suggests that humans are biologically wired to seek and maintain emotional bonds with significant others. It emphasizes how these attachment patterns influence our relationships.

• Emotional Regulation: EFT helps individuals and couples understand and regulate their emotions. It focuses on identifying underlying emotions and needs that drive behaviors within relationships.

• Patterns of Interaction: EFT explores the patterns of interaction between individuals or within couples/families that contribute to distress or conflict. These patterns often involve negative cycles where partners or family members may feel disconnected or misunderstood.

• Changing Interaction Patterns: Through EFT, therapists help clients identify and change these negative interaction patterns. The goal is to create new, more secure attachment bonds characterized by emotional responsiveness and accessibility.

• Stages of Therapy: EFT typically involves three stages:

1. De-escalation: Identifying and reducing negative interaction patterns.

2. Restructuring: Fostering new patterns of interaction and emotional responsiveness.

3. Consolidation: Strengthening the new patterns and creating a more secure bond.

• Effectiveness: EFT has been extensively researched and has shown effectiveness in improving relationship satisfaction, reducing distress, and promoting emotional intimacy.

Overall, EFT is a structured approach to therapy that helps individuals and couples understand their emotional needs and interactions within relationships, aiming to create more secure and fulfilling connections.